5 Ways to Practice “Real” Body Positivity
Unfortunately, women often find themselves in a constant state of perplexity, trying to accept their own bodies while battling insecurities every day. I personally spent the first half of my life dieting or being chronically unhappy with my reflection before I was finally able to embrace what I saw in the mirror.
That said, there’s nothing wrong with setting goals or wanting to make healthy changes. However, it took me a long time to undo years of subliminal messaging to realize that it’s okay to look like a person—a real person—instead of some idealized, edited image.
Just like with anything, building confidence takes time. It starts with learning to be comfortable and real with yourself. Here are some ways I remind myself to feel good about who I am:
Focus on How You Feel
It’s true what they say: when you feel good, you look good. Don’t obsess over "good" or "bad" eating habits or your workout routine. Instead, focus on how you feel. Take a moment to truly check in with yourself—ask, How do I feel today? Celebrate the little things, like stretching before bed or taking a walk during your lunch break. The key is to find movement that feels good to you, not what’s trendy or intensive. Just get moving in a way that feels right. And when it comes to food, eat what makes you feel awesome, not what you think you "should" be eating.
Celebrate What You Do Love
Whether it’s your strong arms, toned legs, or the shape of your body, there’s always something to love about yourself. Spend time focusing on what you admire about your body. Know that you have something beautiful and unique, and allow that to lift you up. When someone gives you a compliment, don’t brush it off—accept it with gratitude and keep walking with confidence. Don’t let any perceived "flaws" steal your inner joy.
Practice Compliments Instead of Comparison
We’ve all been there—looking at another woman and thinking, "Wow, I wish I had that." But comparison really is the thief of joy. It creates the idea that if someone else has something we don’t, we need to change ourselves to keep up. Instead of letting those thoughts weigh you down, challenge yourself to shift your mindset. Compliment the other person instead! "Wow, she looks amazing in that dress—she must feel incredible!" Celebrate her confidence without making it about yourself. There’s room in this world for all of us to shine, and one person’s glow doesn’t take away from yours.
Confront the Mirror
There was a time when I used to avoid mirrors at all costs. But now, I stand in front of them and acknowledge what I like and what I don’t. And instead of criticizing myself, I look at my reflection as a person—not an object. Every crease, curve, and imperfection is what makes me unique. Your body is your superpower—appreciate what makes you different, because that’s where your true beauty lies.
Treat It Like a Temple
Our bodies are capable of incredible things. We can run, train, and connect with others in ways that are nothing short of amazing. One way to truly feel good is to treat your body with the respect it deserves. Honor what your body needs and wants, and remember that no one else gets to decide that but you. Pamper yourself, whether through a skincare routine, a massage, or simply taking time to rest. Lavish yourself with the care you deserve, and allow others to treat you with the same kindness.
Embrace who you are, and remember that building confidence is a journey. It’s not about perfection, but about learning to appreciate the real, beautiful person you already are.